Tuesday, November 25, 2008
Hi everyone, this is Alex. This is the first time I have blogged on here but I'll make sure I make up for the ground I have missed. Sorry for the length, but I haven't said a lot over these past three weeks. I haven't been able to spend the ample time with my mom that I would like due to school and prior commitments, but my dad is right there by her side at all times so I feel much better about the whole thing. The night that my mom had her horrible aneurysm, I was studying for a test. My sister called me and as I saw the phone ring, I knew something was wrong...I just knew it. I have never had a 4 hour car drive go faster. The time waiting for the doctor's word on my mom's condition after surgery was the worst thing any of my family has gone through. I don't think any of us have cried so hard. Time spent waiting in the hospital felt so distant and unreal. I could barely walk into the room to see her. I kept my composure all through the week pretty well until the day I had to leave my mom for a week. I had went in the room to see her when they were lifting her up to do an X-Ray, and she was scratching the back of her neck with one eye open facing another direction. I waited outside the room and watched. She glanced over at my with that one eye, I waved to her not expecting anything back, but she saw me and waved that big pillowy glove I know she hated so much. She then said "I want him" and tried to wave me in the room. It was then that my heart sank deep and I wanted her to be out of there so bad. My God, how things have evolved since then. I even talked to her on the phone just today! I'm so proud of my mom for trying so hard to get out of the hospital. She is walking farther and farther everyday, gaining a little piece of herself back with every step. I love my mom, and not that I ever was before, but I will never be too busy to talk to my mom again. I call my dad when I get the chance to see how things are going, and with blessing, it's always good news. Tonight, I asked him what's going on, and he said "Right now she is resting" but I accidentally heard "She just got arrested". I thought to myself, "what could she have POSSIBLY done!" haha. I love my mom very much and there hasn't been a moment in these past weeks I haven't thought of her. But as I have said before, I can wait for her, because I know I will have her back home. But most importantly, I want her home to be with my dad. Never before this ordeal, had I realized the love between my parents. There is nothing that will tear them apart in their million year relationship. Thank you to all those who have keep our family in your thoughts and prayers and thank you to those who have talked to me, my sister, and my dad through all of this. I love you mom.
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WOW......how beautiful and touching was that?!?!?!? I read it twice and cried the entire time. I could feel your heart breaking during some of those crucial moments. Alex, I cant count all the times your Mom talked to me about how proud she is of you and all of your accomplishments. Reading what you just wrote tells me that you are equally as proud of her. Im so thankful for all the good news this week. Im sure this will be a holiday season that you will never forget and count the many blessings that God has given you.
Even keeping her from being arrested!! ha, ha!
Love
Melodie Brigman
Yes wow Alex, your story brings back so many feelings I had when my mother had a stroke in May. I did not have anybody except myself and immediate family to talk with. I never new of a blog. So I was like your dad there by her side the entire time. This that you wrote brought myself to tears cause as a daughter I told my moms friends and family and my mother I not going to leave her and going to be by her side till she better then dad can take over. It was the most trying time of my life. I praise your dad for being there every step of the way. I love my mother too. But I did not realize how much till I saw the same thing you did in the hospital. God does everything for a reason. And her story from you and your dad and Regan not only tocuhed my heart once again but many others. You only have one mother and dad. And even though my mother is older I cherrish every moment I have on this earth with her today. It changed the way I appreciate and look at things now. Cause in a instant you never know when you never have the change to tell someone you love again. Always tell your mother you love her and your dad and embrace the happiness and health that your mother is coming home to you again. And you will always be there for her. I can see how proud your dad and mom is of you. Thanks for writing what you felt from the heart.
My prayers are with you,
Sherri Mueller
Hi Berrymans,
Just wanted to drop a quick line before I head to work. Alex, your blog entry was so touching. When your mother reads this her heart will be so touched. As a mom, we like to hear those things once in awhile. It truly puts your priorities in order. It gives you a sense of whats really important in life and puts things in perspective. Alex, you and your sister and Dad are some of the most supportive and loving people we know. We know that this is a trying time for you all, but it sounds like your mom is really doing fantastic. She is really working hard to make sure she gets home with her family as soon as she is able. Know that we are praying for all of you. We really love you guys and, as you know, if you need anything all you have to do is pick up the phone and ask. We are hoping to get down soon. Give Mary a big hug. Talk to you soon.
Have a great Thanksgiving--you truly have something to be soooooo thankful for.
The Hartleys
Hey Alex,
It was nice to hear from someone different, your dad was getting kinda boring........just kidding:)
It's about time you wrote!!! You got me too, I had to get a kleenex!
Love,
Cousin Anne
Dear Berrymans,
I read your blog every morning and am touched to the core of my heart. I usually have the kleenex box close by as I need one. We are continuing to keep you all in our thoughts and prayers. This will be a Thanksgiving that you will never forget. I know you will all enjoy just being together. Your love shines from all that each of you say and it is inspiring. Remember to take care of yourselves too. God Bless.
The Smith's
Brad, Cindy, Lindsay, Lincoln, Ashley & Allison
What an awesome blog, Alex! I can imagine how proud your parents are of you and how your Mom will keep that blog tucked away for the rest of her life. I work with your Mom at BCBS and my daughter, Kate, went away to college the same time you did - so your Mom and I had plenty to talk about. It's definitely different being on the parent side, let me tell you. Reading how you are always going to make time for your Mom made me so happy - it doesn't take much to make us moms happy - just a word here or a smile there is all we need. She sure was missing you when you went off to college! You have a wonderful family - one you can all be proud of! You probably remember me - as we lived near you - and our son James knows you from Hy-Vee. Our daughter Kate and Regan used to play together in the old neighborhood. Keep taking great care of your Mom - she is coming back so quickly. We miss her a ton at work - and look forward to her silliness soon! Cousin Gail said Mary asked about a few of us at work - and it made our day! Thanksgiving is definitely awesome this year. We are all so thankful for Mary. Prayers continue to go up for all of you! Take care of yourselves!!
hey alex. it looks like her recovery is going well. i'm glad the prayers are working. what a great God we serve. Our Jesus is bigger than anything the devil throws at us. Be strong in faith my friend. if you want someone to talk to, you know how to get ahold of me.
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