November 30, 2008 pm

It is 8:47 pm. Today Mary had quite a few friends come and visit her. Mary K., Sara, Carrie, the McCleans, and the Brinkmans. Mary and I enjoyed seeing everyone. Mary's girlfriends actually brought her in some Olive Garden food for lunch. Believe me, she thoroughly enjoyed that. It is so wonderful that Mary has such wonderful caring friends, and it means a lot to me that they make the long trip just to see how she's doing so many times. Mary didn't have any therapy today at all. We did try to make sure that she did some exercises in her bed, mainly with her grip strength, and also bending and flexing her left arm and leg. She still seems to be getting a little more strength in the left side each day. I have a feeling that she will work real hard tomorrow. I have made the decision to come back home for a few days this week, starting tomorrow. After talking to some of the therapists, they think it might be good for Mary to do some of the therapy without me being with her. I have seen a couple of times that Mary would stop in the middle of whatever they had her doing just to ask me a question. She may not even have seen me, (because I was standing on her left side), but she new I was there. I do not in any way want to be a distraction to Mary while she is rehabbing her mind and body. So, as hard as it may be to leave for a little while, I think it will be very interesting to see what happens while I'm gone. Mary is really starting to embrace the working hard to get home thing, and I hope she continues in that mindset. I think she will. Obviously, it is going to be hard for me to report what happens for a few days. I am going to be talking to Mary on her phone to see how she is doing, and hopefully I can get adequate information from her to give you all a report. I will keep in touch. Please keep praying for Mary, as I think this may a pivotal week in her recovery. Thanks.

November 29th, 2008 pm

It is 10:50pm. I know it's late, but I just got home from going out to dinner with my sister Beth, niece Rachel, and Kayla, Katie, and Molly. We had a really nice time. Mary had another good day. She really didn't do a tremendous amount of rehab today, but what she did was very good. When I arrived this morning, she was already walking with one of her therapists. After talking to Mary later, I found out the the therapist asked her "what do you want to work on the most this morning?" Mary answered "whatever you think is going to get me home the quickest". When the speech therapist intercepted us going down the hall heading back to Mary's room, she asked if Mary wanted to move up her therapy time with her to now. Mary said "sure". When we got done with Mary's speech therapy, she also got some "homework". We arrived back in Mary's room, and normally she would say I'm ready to lay down now. This time she said "Let's do my homework". All of these things really shows me that Mary is ready to take on this challenge, and she is doing it head on. Just in the last few days she has really realized that this is the way to get home to her family. She still gets tired, she still gets annoyed with me, but I am so happy to see the drive starting to come out in her. We all know how strong and independent she is, and I was so hoping that it would come out in her rehab. I think it finally is. Maybe not 100% yet, but she is definitely turning it up a notch or two. We had quite a few friends visiting today, and I know there will be some tomorrow. Mary enjoys seeing her family and friends, and I really feel that it picks her up. Granted, she is worn out when everyone leaves, but the positive stimulation is good for her. She still has not seen any of your wonderful, caring comments yet on this blog, but she knows about them. She is looking forward to reading them all. I am looking forward to her doing just that. Thanks to all.

November 28th, 2008 pm

It's 7:43 pm. I'm actually writing a little early tonight as I left the rehab facility a little earlier than normal. Mary had a pretty busy day today with quite a bit of rehab and also quite a few visitors. Some of the rehab exercises that she did today really spent her energy. They had her doing quite a lot of lifting and strengthening exercises for her left arm and hand today. She really did quite well with them. She is trying so hard to make things happen on her left side. It seems like every day she gets a little bit stronger with the left. Her fingers move a little bit more, she lifts her leg a little higher, lifts the arm just a little bit more than the last time. I am starting to see more and more of the fire and fight that Mary has. During one of her conversations with Ed Sanderson this afternoon before he left, Ed told her that he did not want to hear that she was slacking on any of her rehab. Mary said she would not slack and would be walking by Christmas. I found that to be a big step in her attitude on her recovery. That was the first time I have heard her say anything about a "goal" or time frame of any type of recovery. It is really starting to click in Mary that she feels she can get better and recover. How far and how quick she gets there is really up to her. I am try to do my part and push her to do small things, mainly in her down times between therapy. Yes, this is annoying her, but she knows that I am doing it for her. She may not truly appreciate my being annoying to her, but I hope someday she will know that it was out of love, and the desire to get her back home sooner. I am reading a couple of books to help educate myself on stroke. For those of you who know me well, you know that reading books and Scott Berryman, do not go in the same sentence together. However, I am finding the books to be interesting and for some reason I really don't mind reading them. Have I discovered a new hobby? I'm not sure yet. Mainly I'm reading for Mary. I want to be as knowledgeable as possible when we get home to start this new chapter in Mary's life. I think she is starting to realize that it may be sooner than later when she will come home. Although for Mary to say it, she can't be home soon enough, but just the fact that she will be coming home to us, is a blessing in itself. Thanks again for all the prayers. Let's hope she has another good day tomorrow. Personally, I think she will. Thanks.

November 27th, 2008 pm

It is 9:01 pm. I hope you all had a wonderful Thanksgiving. For our family, it was one that we had a lot to be thankful for. We were thankful for all that we have in our families, and it made it even better that some of them were able to come the rehab facility and spend it with Mary. Mary's Mom and Dad, her sister Julie, Alex and his girlfriend Emily, and Regan were all in attendance. It was a very special day, and I think Mary really enjoyed seeing everyone. She ate quite a bit of food today, and so did I. (no big surprise there). Mary had no therapy at all today. Although no professional help was given to her, I think her kids and her family being with her today was good therapy in itself. She was very alert today again. I really think that this is kind of the norm now. She hasn't really been groggy or out of it for a while now. That makes me very happy, as it so nice to just talk to her and have a little fun. Even some of the nurses are commenting on how much better she seems to be just after a week of therapy. Mary desperately wants to go shopping tomorrow on Black Friday. This is a favorite thing of hers to do. Every year Mary and her crazy friends start shopping at 4am. I know this special event will probably happen next year for Mary, but that didn't stop her from looking at the ads in today's paper. Anyway, since Mary didn't really have any rehab today, I have nothing medical to actually report. She is still doing good, and in very good spirits. As I close and say the words Happy Thanksgiving, those words never meant so much to me as this year. It truly was a Happy Thanksgiving day for me and our family. I hope it was for yours. Thanks.

November 26th, 2008 pm

Hello all, it is Scott again. It's 8:39 pm. First of all I want to thank my son Alex for his blog last night. I too was touched by his words to his Mom. It made me realize just how proud we are of our kids. I always new they we great kids, but when a event like this happens to a family, the best of everyone just shines through. Your Mom and I love you both very much. Mary had another pretty decent day today. She had about 3 hours of total rehab today ending at about 2:30 pm. She didn't walk with her therapist as much today, but she did do some other things that worked her pretty hard. She went up and down a few steps today, and really did pretty well. Her left leg started hurting her though, so she had to quit. I obviously am not a doctor, but I think her left leg hurting, is good. I would think that her having the feeling going up to her brain saying Hey, something down there is working and hurting, is a good thing. But, that's just me thinking. She also did quite bit of time on the hand bike, (this is kind of like pedaling a bike with your hands), and I thought she did well. They have to strap her left hand on the pedal with and elastic bandage to hold it on. But, when they had her try to pedal with just her left arm, she was actually able to go about 3 or 4 revolutions without help. She had to work her but off to do it though. The therapist thought that was really good and so did I. Mary has been insisting on talking to the doctor about a day pass to go home for Thanksgiving tomorrow. She got to talk to him today, and to no surprise, she was denied the pass. He told her she just wasn't strong enough yet to make such a long trip home. Needless to say, she was very disappointed. Although alot of out family is coming to the facility for a Thanksgiving dinner tomorrow, she wants to be home. The doctor guesses she will be here about 2 more weeks. That's just a guess though. She will be evaluated on her progress after this week. Today has been one full week since Mary has been here. Even I can see the progress that she has made in that time. It's hard to say where she will be in 2 more weeks. If she keeps working hard, and I hope she will, I really feel that her strength and stamina will increase dramatically. There is nothing I want more than for Mary to function as close to normal as possible when she gets home. She is definitely headed in the right direction. I hope that all of you that are reading this have a wonderful Thanksgiving day tomorrow. I am truly thankful that we have such great group of friends that are so caring and loving to our family. Thank you all. You have made this ordeal much easier. But obviously, most of my thanks this year is that we will celebrate the day with our whole family. It doesn't matter where we are celebrating, what matters is that we have our Mary with us. It will be a happy Thanksgiving. You have one too. Thanks.

Hi everyone, this is Alex. This is the first time I have blogged on here but I'll make sure I make up for the ground I have missed. Sorry for the length, but I haven't said a lot over these past three weeks. I haven't been able to spend the ample time with my mom that I would like due to school and prior commitments, but my dad is right there by her side at all times so I feel much better about the whole thing. The night that my mom had her horrible aneurysm, I was studying for a test. My sister called me and as I saw the phone ring, I knew something was wrong...I just knew it. I have never had a 4 hour car drive go faster. The time waiting for the doctor's word on my mom's condition after surgery was the worst thing any of my family has gone through. I don't think any of us have cried so hard. Time spent waiting in the hospital felt so distant and unreal. I could barely walk into the room to see her. I kept my composure all through the week pretty well until the day I had to leave my mom for a week. I had went in the room to see her when they were lifting her up to do an X-Ray, and she was scratching the back of her neck with one eye open facing another direction. I waited outside the room and watched. She glanced over at my with that one eye, I waved to her not expecting anything back, but she saw me and waved that big pillowy glove I know she hated so much. She then said "I want him" and tried to wave me in the room. It was then that my heart sank deep and I wanted her to be out of there so bad. My God, how things have evolved since then. I even talked to her on the phone just today! I'm so proud of my mom for trying so hard to get out of the hospital. She is walking farther and farther everyday, gaining a little piece of herself back with every step. I love my mom, and not that I ever was before, but I will never be too busy to talk to my mom again.  I call my dad when I get the chance to see how things are going, and with blessing, it's always good news. Tonight, I asked him what's going on, and he said "Right now she is resting" but I accidentally heard "She just got arrested". I thought to myself, "what could she have POSSIBLY done!" haha. I love my mom very much and there hasn't been a moment in these past weeks I haven't thought of her. But as I have said before, I can wait for her, because I know I will have her back home. But most importantly, I want her home to be with my dad. Never before this ordeal, had I realized the love between my parents. There is nothing that will tear them apart in their million year relationship. Thank you to all those who have keep our family in your thoughts and prayers and thank you to those who have talked to me, my sister, and my dad through all of this. I love you mom.

November 24, 2008 pm

It is 8:57 pm and I am writing this from my new home for this week. Thanks Elaine for the use of your house. You don't know how much it means to me. Also, thanks again Rick for the use of your home. It was great to talk to you. Mary had another good day today. Really no set backs of any kind. She was pretty much herself most of the day. She once again worked hard in her rehab today. I think she is trying the hardest when I see her walking with her therapist. She is concentrating so hard. I know it is so very difficult for her to do this at this point, but seeing her determination is inspiring. You just take for granted every little thing that you can do. Who would have thought that Mary would be working her but off, just to take a few steps, or move her fingers? Even though part of me wants to cry when I see her going through this, another part of me is so happy to see her just trying to do it. It's kind of hard to put in words what I am feeling. I am definitely getting stronger, as Mary is getting stronger also. The first time she walked with the therapist's help she went about 5 feet before she had to sit back down in the wheel chair. That was 5 days ago. Today she went 51 feet. I thought that was awesome, and I think she was happy with herself for accomplishing that. She should be proud. She is moving her left arm and leg a little more than a couple of days ago. She says that it is so hard to do. She gets frustrated with the therapist a little when she is working with her on the movement on the left side. I can only imagine the frustration she must be feeling. I know that she still wants to get home very badly. Just in the last few days I think she knows she can't go home yet. She is getting into her routine here. I think that Mary is realizing that she can't do this by herself. She has really never said those words yet, but as I left her tonight, she looked at me and said "thanks for taking care of me." Like I would do anything else. I am so very fortunate to have employers that are truly understanding of this event in our lives. You guys will never know just how much it means to me to be able to be here with Mary during this time. I promise I will be back sometime very soon. This time is just so critical in her progressing to live a productive life at home. I thank you from the bottom of my heart for letting me be here for her. I think I am going to change the format of my writing a little bit, starting tomorrow. For a while, I think I will only be doing one blog for the day, and it will be at night. The morning entry is mainly just telling you how I slept the night before, and really, big whoop! So, I will start just doing one in the evening to let you all know of Mary's entire day. Thanks to all of you who read this. I have been told there are quite a few people that read it daily. I really means a lot to me, and I know it will mean a lot to Mary. Pray for another good day. Thanks.

November 23rd, 2008 pm

It is 10:04 pm. I just got to Rick's for one more night of rest. Tomorrow night I will begin staying at a friend of the family's house. She is going out of town for the week, and was kind enough to offer her entire house for me to use. It will be very nice. Mary continued to have a good day. She was herself for most of the day. Her sense of humor was definitely in tact, as was her poking fun at my being bossy, and annoying. (I know she's just kidding) My family got the biggest kick out of Mary today. She was just fun to be around, and that was the beauty of it. It was the Mary that we all know and love. Smiling, joking and just putting a smile on your face. I know you all will see it soon enough when we can get her home. I think we are planning a Thanksgiving dinner here at the rehab center with some of Mary's family. This will without a doubt, be a day that our family will have something to be truly thankful for. Thankful that we have our Mary here with us, and thankful that we have so many great friends that truly care. I received a letter from a very good friend that said that her family was going to say a special prayer for Mary at their Thanksgiving table. To think of others when you're with your own family is a special thing. Thanks Sharon, that meant a lot. Thanks to all of you. Talk to you tomorrow. Pray for a good day.

November 23, 2008 pm

It's 3:29 pm. I am writing today from my nephew Gabe's computer. They are here visiting Mary today, along with all of my family also. It's great to see everyone. Mary has really enjoyed talking with everyone. She is very alert today and seems to be having a good time. She is having a good time making fun of me and my soreness from playing in the alumni game last night. It was a lot of fun going back and playing with friends. Reality had sunken in about the 4th time down the floor though. I am out of shape and getting older! I did make a 3 pointer, and that was good enough to make me think about playing next year. I told that to Mary and she just said "that's fascinating Scott, why don't you run track too, maybe the hurdles?" It cracked everyone up in the room. It is so wonderful to her cracking jokes, and it really doesn't bother me that the jokes are directed at me. Some of my family members haven't seen Mary in over a week, and they cannot believe how much she has changed in that time. It makes them so happy to see Mary coming back to us. One of her therapists today said she did awesome with her assisted walking. She went 25 ft. and said she could do more. That's the drive that I know that Mary has, and I hope she keeps it coming. I hope Mary has a great week. She seriously seems to make improvements each day. I love it. Thank you to  all the prayer groups out there that have been praying for Mary. I know that I will never be able thank each and every one of you, but if you are involved in any way, thank you from the bottom of my heart. There are some of you that I know that we will need to send thank you notes to for your generosity. It may be a while before that happens, so please bear with us. Just know that if you have given something, it is so appreciated. It's not necessary, but much appreciated. I will try to write again tonight. Thanks.

November 22, 2008 am

It's 8:35 am. Regan and I are getting ready to leave from staying at Rick's. Once again my thanks to him for letting me camp out for a few days. I hope I wasn't too much trouble. Regan and I are company home for a day today. I am actually coming back to attempt to play in an alumni game at Central tonight. Probably a dumb decision, but I will give it a go. Mary will have a small break today on her rehab. The weekends are not as busy, they let the patients rest and visit on the weekend. Mary's Mom and Dad are staying with her today. I know they are doing this partly for me to get away for a day, and I thank them very much. I feel a little guilty leaving Mary today. I know I shouldn't, but I do. I am coming back early on Sunday morning. Hopefully my body will not be too sore. I know Mary loves being with her parents, and that makes leaving today a little easier. I don't know what time we will write tonight. I will see how everything plays out. Thank you all for you thoughts and prayers.

Friday, November 21, 2008

Hello readers, it's Regan again. Dad decided that he needed to take a break from the blogs tonight. So I'm going to take another shot at it. Mom had a pretty good day today. In physical therapy she walked (with heavy assistance) 30 feet. Which is the full way that she was supposed to walk today. We don't want to sugar coat it, and make you think that she's making a miraculous recovery right now, but she's doing the best she can right now. She's getting really tired really easily. In speech therapy she had to quit a little early because her head was hurting her pretty bad. Which isn't uncommon, she was just getting worked a little too hard for a little too long. From what I've seen out of her from the past 2 days that I've been here, her spirits have just lifted so much. Lately we've been noticing that her sense of humor that we all know and love is coming back rapidly. She's cracking jokes, and she's telling us how annoying dad is, and how bossy he is! Haha, it cracks me up. You can tell that she's depressed, because she still doesn't fully understand why she is in the hospital, and why she can't just get up and go home. And it's really hard to explain to her, because she has short term memory loss for now. But we can deal with it. If she's here to learn all of those skills back, we're more than happy to help her with anything! And I know that most of you are too. And we appreciate that more than you can ever know. The blog may be very late tomorrow. Dad and I are going back home tomorrow to get some things taken care of. Keep leaving those comments! When mom is well enough to read, and to get on a computer, she's going to be reading all of your comments, to know how much everyone really loves her! Thank you! -Regan

November 21st, 2008 am

It is 7:53 am. Once again, I slept later than I wanted to. This futon is getting pretty comfortable I guess. I will again keep this short so I can hurry to get ready, and spend the day with Mary. I'm sure right now Mary either taking her shower, or scheming to get out of it. This is the time of day that OT helps her get herself ready for the day. I do not know what her schedule is like to day, they didn't get one to me before I left. Typically, she will have 3 to 4 hours a day of therapy, and some rest time spaced in between. I am praying for another good day today. I think she can do it again. Keep Mary in your prayers today. Thanks.

November 20th, 2008 pm

It is 9:56 pm. I just got back from being with Mary all day. It actually turned out to be a pretty good day. She had a little argument with the occupational therapist this morning, and talked her way out of taking a shower. She promised them that she would take one tomorrow morning though. She is eating pretty good also, and thank goodness they really have good food there. Mary worked hard in physical therapy today also. She did some walking with assistance again today and did pretty well. She couldn't make it very far before sitting down, but...baby steps. Tonight Mary's Mom and Dad, and also my Regan came to visit tonight. Mary was sleeping when they arrived, but awoke as they walked in. She was without a doubt the most alert tonight that I have seen since her surgery. It was so wonderful to see. She was poking fun at me for being so annoying to her, she was talking to Regan about school stuff and how the cats were doing, and too her parents about whatever came up in conversation. Kevin Endebrock even made his daily call to me, and this time he got to talk to Mary. She had a smile on her face while she talked. It truly warmed my heart to see her like that tonight. I hope there are many more of those days to come. I know that coming back from a brain aneurysm and a stroke will be the hardest thing Mary has ever done. She is doing this with a lot of heart and determination. Today I saw it more than ever, so far. I am proud of what she has accomplished already, but I think there is plenty more where that came from. Keep praying, and thank you so much.

November 20th, 2008 am

It is 8:22 am. I slept a little bit longer than I normally do this morning. I must have needed it. This being late on my blog thing is starting to become a habit. I will try to do better. I received no phone calls last night, so I assume all went OK with Mary. I am getting ready to leave now, so I will see how she is doing in her new routine. Sometimes yesterday it seemed like I would get her out of her concentration. One of the other side effects of her condition is being easily distracted. I am going to try to be a fly on the wall today, and just observe. I'm going to keep it short this morning, as I really have no new news to report. I will let you all know how the day goes. Please pray for a good day for Mary. Thanks.

November 19th, 2008 pm

It is 10:00pm. The reason I am late again is that I can't get my laptop to work at the new facility. I am sorry for the delay, but I have no choice. Mary's first day of therapy was a tough one. I was tough for her, mainly because she had to work so hard, and it was tough for me to actually see how far she has to go. Mary has what they call left side neglect. Basically, her brain is not recognizing anything on the left side. Even when eating off her plate, she will not eat anything on the left. She can't see anything to the left either. Her eyes work, but nothing will register on the left. I have never seen anything like it. This is a pretty common condition on stroke victims I am told. That is one of the main focuses of the speech therapy. They have to completely retrain the brain to know she has stuff on her left side. She was able to move both her arm and leg some during the physical therapy, which was good. You could tell she was really working hard to concentrate on making it happen. She was done with all of her therapy before noon today, and it completely wiped her out. She slept off and on a lot of the day after that. We did go outside on the patio for a little while to enjoy the nice day. I think while we were out there, Mary was trying to plan her escape. She really wants me to take her home, and is getting very angry with me because I won't. I know this is temporary, but it is so hard to be the bad guy in this, when all I want is the best for her. I know that all of you have been keeping us in your prayers, and I thank you. I am starting now to see just how tough this is going to be. For us, and especially for Mary. Please keep us in your thoughts.

November 19th, 2008 am

It's 7:29 am. I actualy feel pretty good this morning. I have to admit, it felt a lot better not sleeping on the floor last night. I think the only thing that really woke me up, was my sister Beth calling at 12:32 am. She was calling to say that Mary had just called her to talk. I honestly don't remember what she said the conversation was about, as I was in a pretty heavy sleep. Since she has got her phone now, depending on how tired she is, don't be surprised if some of you get a random phone call. I'm sure that Mary is fully into the morning rountine by now on her first day. I hope she does OK. I am going to keep this short this morning so I can get there to see this in action. She needs her energy level to be up today, as she has a lot of work to do. Please pray for her today. I will keep in touch. Thanks.

November 18th, 2008 pm

It is 9:08 pm. Again, I am sorry for the delay. As a lot of you already know, Mary has moved into the Rehabilitation Institute of St. Louis. We moved in about 4:00 this afternoon. She is all settled in and in her bed getting rest for her first big day tomorrow. From what I understand, she will be worked hard tomorrow, starting in right at 7am. I am actually writing this from Rick Cookson's house, which is where I am staying tonight. Thanks to him for letting me crash here. I'll be honest, it was tough for me to leave my girl tonight. I'm not there. I know she is in good hands so I shouldn't worry. But, I just can't help it. I am going back about 8:00 in the morning, mainly to get a feel of what Mary's days are going to consist of. I know it is going to be a lot of work. They told me she will be very tired after the first 3 or 4 days. It was so nice to see her laying there sleeping with absolutely no wires or cables or tubes in her. Just Mary. She had to be so much more comfortable, and I was so glad about that. The facility she is at is very nice and I hope she will be happy there. I know I am doing the right thing by having her go there, and hope that sometime Mary will understand me leaving her there. Dr. Chicoine said she will probably be there 2 to 3 weeks, depending on her progress. I can't wait to see what the next few days hold. Please pray for this new chapter in Mary's life. She will without a doubt need as much strength as possible. Thanks.

November 18th, 2008 am

It is 8:29 am. Once again I apologize for my lateness in getting this out. Yesterday was just a good day all around. Mary did quite a few things that were just wonderful. One of the first things was in the morning. As we were talking about a few things, she was laying on her left side. As she usually does, she raised her right arm up wanting me to help her get up. As I leaned in to let her pull up on my shoulder, this time she just raised herself up to my level, and gave me a soft kiss on the cheek. Needless to say it made my day! She was doing more talking yesterday, most of it making sense. There are still times that she talks a little confused. I asked the doctor about that, and he said that will go on for months. Mary passed all her swallowing tests yesterday, so she had her first meal last night. She didn't eat too much, but it was eating and drinking real food. While she was getting ready to eat, a man tapped me on the shoulder and introduced himself as Father Chuck. He was from Quincy from a few years ago. He was good friends with Julie, so he was in to say hi to Mary. She did remember him, and that was great. After he left Mary asked me if I had my cell phone. This time I obliged and said who do you want to call. She said she wanted to call her Mom or Julie to give them Father Chuck's number or something. I opened my phone for her and asked who do you want to call. She said "I'll do it". I gave her the phone and she started dialing. It took her twice, but she dialed her Mom and Dads house phone. She raised the phone up to her ear and waited. She had her helmet on at the time, so it was a little awkward. In a few seconds she said "Hi Mom". I can only imagine what emotion was felt on the other line. Darlene was taking a phone call from Mary. From my end it was a beautiful thing. Mary and her Mom talked for at least 3 or 4 minutes, and it was a conversation! Mary was talking good to her and focused on the conversation at hand. I couldn't believe it. She ended with a "OK, bye, I love you too." Later I called Dar to ask her what she thought, and she said it completely made her day. She also got her catheter out last night, which was a great thing for Mary. She has hated every minute of that. Really, the only thing that is hooked up to right now is the monitor for heart rate, blood oxygen and reparations. If all details can be worked out, and I feel they can, Mary will be moving into the Rehab center today. Unbelievable. As one of comments said, She is showing us. I have to make some phone calls to see if the move can happen today, so I'd better go. As always, thanks for your thoughts and prayers. Mary will need plenty more of them, as she begins her rehab. It will be a lot of hard work. The doctor thinks she is up for it. So do I. Thanks.

November 17th, 2008 pm

It is 5:21 pm. I am writing this from a laptop that a good friend loaned to me to use while I am up here. Thanks Alan, is means a lot. Morey and Rita came for another visit today, and it's always great to see them. They just happened to be here on the day that I toured the rehab facility that Mary will be going to. In case anyone wants to look at it via the web, their website is www.rehabinstitutestl.com. They accompanied me on the visit, which I really appreciated the extra set of eyes and ears. After going there, I truly believe that this is where Mary needs to be. I still haven't talked to the doctor yet today. He has not been on rounds yet. I will let you know when I find out. I think it may be fairly soon though. Mary had a good day today. She still had a little confusion, but it was better today. The big step that she made today was she passed her swallowing test, and will now be on regular soft food, and liquids. She had the feeding tube removed from her nose today. Actually she removed it herself, but that's a whole other story. She still remains restless in her bed, as she really wants out of it. She keeps asking the nurses, if she's ready to go yet. It will be sooner than she may think. She looks more comfortable with the tube out of her nose now. You can see more of her pretty face. She is smiling more, and definitely getting more feisty. She told me today to quit bugging her. Just like at home. She's doing good, I just want her to continue down the road she is going. Rich and Mike came by late this afternoon before their flight down to Orlando. When they went in to see Mary, she greeted them with a "Hey guys!". I love it when Mary recognizes friends. She sent them off with "Have a good time in Orlando". I thought that was awesome. Slowly, she keeps coming on. Keep it coming honey, just keep it coming. Thanks again for the prayers. Please keep them coming too. Thanks.

November 17th am

It is 9:18 am. I am writing this on the hospitals computer. They have a couple that people can use down at guests services. Not a good way to end the evening last night. It's probably good that the person who stole my laptop got away. Otherwise he may have had his own room right here. I am not a mean person, but come on. Anyway, on to the important things. Mary seems to be having an OK morning. The nurse said she had another restless night. A lot of tossing and turning, and wanting to get out of the bed. She is still a little confused on things, but that will get better. She is having her swallow eval this morning sometime. I hope she is not having it while I am writing this, as I really want to be there. I hope she passes so she can eat and drink real food and water. She wants a drink so bad. I am also going to tour the facility that Mary will be staying at for her rehab. We may find out today when that will begin. I want to thank my daughter Regan for filling in for me last night. Regan, you did a wonderful job of writing. You are a sweet girl and your Mother and I love you very much. (you to Alex). I have go to get back upstairs so I don't miss the doctor's visit. I will update again soon. Please pray for a good day. Thanks.

November 16, 2008 pm

Hi everyone, this is Regan writing tonight. Unfortunately some desperate selfish idiot at the hospital stole my dad's laptop while he was sitting with my mom tonight. We're very pissed off, obviously, and the police are on it, but we are still working on getting this blog posted so that everybody doesn't have to wonder. Overall mom had a pretty good day. She's still talking a lot, and she's still a bit confused about some things. We think that he short term memory is effected the most right now. Because she still knows who everyone is, and she can remember a lot of things that happened a while ago. She is pretty much milking this whole thing for all its worth, as far as it comes with her sister Julie. Today she lifted her foot way up in the air right in Julie's face, and said "kiss 'em".  So we know that she still has her sense of humor, thats so mom for you right there! Dad wanted me to mention that he saw her do something today that none of us have ever seen her do yet. On command, she lifted her left leg, and her left arm. Not with a whole lot of strength, but she did it, and its really really good, because now we know that she is gaining that movement back in her left side. Tomorrow she is having a swallowing test, if she can get that good, then she will get to finally take a drink of water like she has been asking for. Hopefully it will life her spirits a little. --As far as the blogs go, dad is going to try to go find another computer tomorrow in the hospital so that he can keep the updates coming. If he can't find one, it may be me writing them for a while. I'm not sure if I can live up to the scholar writing of my father, but I sure will do my best. As long as everyone is still keeping the faith, and still praying for her and out family, we're all happy campers, because that means that we still have my mom here with us, and we need to remember to thank God for everything that he has done so far. Because without him, we wouldn't of even made it this far. For everyone that has someone you love, tell them, I know its always nice to hear, but make yourself that someone to tell those special people in your life how much you care. Keep up the comments, we love to read them! Thank you! -Regan

November 16th, 2008 am

It is 8:07 am. I just finished my breakfast from the cafateria, hoping to start the week off right. It was pretty good. Mary is doing fine this morning. I went in to kiss her and say good morning about 7:15. The nurse said she had a pretty busy night. When I left her at about 9:30 last night, she was really getting mad that I wouldn't help her out of the bed. It was really hard to be in a little fight with Mary, because I know that she just doesn't understand yet that she has to stay in bed. I am used to having her be mad at me for little things at home, but this is different. It seems like she is thinking Scott's my husband , I'll get him in here and he will help me. But when I won't do it, she doesn't understand why. I know this is temporary, and I keep telling myself that. Yesterday, Mary brushed her own teeth. The nurse was doing it, Mary stopped her and said "You want me to do it?" Sounds like Mary doesn't it. While I was talking to her this morning, she wanted to get in the car and drive around a little. When I told her that I don't even have a car here, she said call Beth. Then without taking a breath she rattled off Beth's cell phone number like it was part of the sentence. I looked at the nurse, to see if she heard that. When I looked, her eyes were big and she said "wow, she's doin' good". It really seems like Mary has retained most of the information she new. Sometimes it may be a little jumbled coming out. But it's there and it will come. I am hoping for a good day today. I know she will be having some visitors, hopefully she will be awake for them to say hi. I think it's good for her to see her friends. I know I enjoy seeing her face light up when they come in. Thanks, and pray for a good day.

November 15th, 2008 pm

It is 5:59 pm. I am sitting in the waiting room/my apartment with quite a few members of my family. It has been nice having them here helping and supporting. Mary had a pretty decent day today. It started out just about the same as the day before with restlessness and really wanting to get out of the bed. Throughout the day though, she has really calmed down and is talking a lot better. She got her staples out of her scar today. The nurses were just about done doing it, when they called to an emergency in the ER. So, she still has 8 staples in, but they will finish up soon. Mary is so thirsty and dry, but they can't give her any water or ice chips yet. She is begging me for a drink. There again, it's so hard to say no. They are afraid that she may choke, which could lead to an infection. She is scheduled for a swallowing evaluation on Monday, to make sure the right muscles are working. They want to make sure that all liquids are going to the right areas. If she passes that, she should be able to start eating and drinking right away. We'll see how that goes. Doug and I walked down and found the rehabilitation center that Mary will most likely be going to. It looks like a wonderful facility. I am going to tour it on Monday. Mary will get the best help possible for a good recovery. I truly believe that is the right place that she needs to be. My sister Beth came in about 5pm and went in to see Mary. She happened to be awake at time, so she was able to talk to her a little while. Beth said that she really sees a difference in Mary since the last time she was her. (which was Tuesday) I guess since I'm here 24/7, I don't see the changes as much as others. It is great that others see it so quickly. I think that things will really start to click for Mary when she gets to the rehab facility. That is what we are all praying for. We are so lucky that we have such a large group of friends that care about Mary. Thank you for all your prayer and positive thoughts. It does mean a lot. As always, please keep Mary in your prayers. Thanks.

November 15th, 2008 am

It's 7:41 am. Yesterday was the first full day for all of us to be on the new floor, and Mary in her new room. It was an OK day. Even though I know that everyday is another step down the road, days like yesterday just seem to make it a little longer. Mary was a little confused about things yesterday, and also did a lot of sleeping. So far today, it looks like we may have another day like that. They came and woke me up around 5am because Mary was calling for me. She wants out of that bed. She wants me to help her out because the nurses won't. It's so hard to look at her, when she wants my help so bad, only to have to be the bad guy and say no. We seem to have the same conversation a lot. I know this is temporary, but it is very hard. Mary hates laying in the bed, and I think she is actually getting down a little. They say this is not uncommon. I will know more about the day as it unfolds. I hope that she can be a little more alert today, and less restless. I am scared that she is going to hurt herself. She tries to get out of the bed herself, and doesn't realized that she can't walk yet. She says that she can do it if I put my arms underneath her and help. How do you say no? I want to help her, but right now I can't. I know she is getting very frustrated. I hope when she gets rolling on the physical therapy, things will get better. Please pray for Mary today, and not to be selfish, but say one for me too. I need some strength. Thanks.

November 14th, 2008 pm

It is 5:59 pm. Today was Mary's first day down in her new room on the 5th floor. She had a day that I would consider a descent day. She was actually very sleepy today, with not a lot of interaction with us. There was some, but some of the time she was a little confused. We asked the doctor, and he said that is not uncommon. Her sluggishness is not uncommon either. Mary's history here so far is if she has a very active day, and very alert, she will be very tired the next day. That has held true so far. This afternoon a social worker from the rehabilitation facility came and talked to us. She explained to me what was ahead in Mary's rehab. She told me something that I couldn't believe. She said that if Mary continues to get a little better each day, there is a possibility that she might move into a rehab facility early next week. I think I am going to keep her here at their rehab. It will be farther away from us, but I am not doing this for us. I am doing what gives Mary the best chance to get well enough to live a good life. They are top notch in everything they do here. I will be able to visit her quite a bit, but they say sometimes if loved ones are there, it distracts from the rehab. It will be tough to leave her somewhere without me there, but hopefully she knows that it is the best for her. It may not be a long stay for Mary. We just don't know. We are going to look at the facility tomorrow, just to see what it is like. I can't actually believe they are thinking about putting her in there so soon. The doctor said this would start to improve her strength. I guess if they think she is about ready, then game on. I just hope and pray that the same old strength and drive that Mary had will shine through in this process. I know this will be the most difficult thing she has ever done in her life. She has come a long way in 10 short days. I know the months ahead hold a lot of work for Mary. If she remains as strong as she has always been, she can do this. Please pray for this next step in her road to recovery. Thanks.

Its 7:27 am. I just woke up from another comfortable night on the concrete floor in the waiting room. It was nice though having a little different scenery. If you didn't read last nights blog, you might want to read it first. We had a good day yesterday. Mary went down to the 5Th floor late last night, out of ICU. She is in a semi-private room right now. She still is receiving good care from the nurses. The only bad thing about this is that they will not let us stay in the room with her. I was hesitant with this because I know how restless she has been. She will sleep for a while, then wake up and want to get out of bed, or get up and go to the bathroom. And until she calms down, she is adamant about it. A couple of thing that they did that made me rest easier was put a bed alarm under her shoulders. We she moves around a lot the alarm will sound. They did put a person in her room the whole night. That made me rest easier. I just don't want her to get hurt. I checked in this morning and the nurse said she had a night of some sleep, and restlessness. No surprise to me. But, I know they took good care of her, and that helps. Mary had made quite a few steps in the last few days. Like I said last night, her words are sounding better, and she is more alert than she has been. We will see how she does today. I can't even get in the room until 11:00, and that is killing me. I know Mary will start having more physical therapy on this floor, and that is good also. Those of you have come to see Mary, know that she has come along way, but also has a long road ahead. She has remembered most everyone that has come in. For those who are planning to come down and visit, just know that Mary may be resting while your here. She needs her rest, so visits may me limited. I know each and everyone of you understands and will not care if you can't see her during your visit. Right now we have to do what is best for the continued progress of her health. When I know more about her condition, and doctor reports, I will update you all. Let's see what today brings us. Kiss your family, and have great day. Thanks.

November 13th, 2008 pm

It is 10:41 pm as I begin writing this evening. I am sorry that I am late in writing this tonight, but more important things were happening. Mary was moved out of ICU tonight and into a semi-private room. I can't believe it. She has been such a fighter in this whole nightmare. To think how far she has come in 9 days in truly a miracle. These doctors and nurses here saved her life. No question. There is also no question that the power of your thoughts and prayers have been a huge part of this. She has said some things today that we have just said "wow" to. When Kelly and Roberta were waiting to come in to see Mary, I went in to ask her if she wanted any visitors. She replied to me, "are they aware of my aneurysm thing"? She also told Kelly that she might want to call her son Jacob and see if he would help her with her rehab. Wow. Mary also said that she remembered her "horrible, horrible head ache." She remembered I was at the football game, and her head hurt so bad that "tears wear streaming down her face." She was talking pretty well most all of the day. It was a beautiful thing. She is a beautiful thing. She was making gestures with her right hand that just looked like Mary. From the friendly wave to a friend as she sees who they are, to the wiggling of the fingers calling you in for a hug. She is without a doubt making steps in the right direction. Mary has in some way, touched a lot of peoples lives during her battle. I know that families have become closer because of her. I know that some wonderful people are reading this each day that don't even know her, but they care. I know that one day, this outpouring of love and hope will be so special to her. We have a long, long way to go down the road to recovery. Until we cross that finish line, please keep our family in your prayers. I know you will. Thanks.

November 13, 2008 am

It is 7:33 am. Mary had a pretty good night of sleep. She seem to get some quality hours in, in between being poked with a needle, breathing treatments, and verbal tests every 2 hours. They have changed Mary's medication for her pain, and it is one that is supposed to make her less drowsy. To me, it seems like it is working. She has been alot more alert the last day or so. More of saying words and alot more restless and moving around. Let me tell you, she still has alot of strength! I notice her head being able to move around more the last couple of days also. She will pick it up off the pillow and maybe turn it slightly, then put it back down. It might not sound like much, but trust me it is. I haven't been in yet this morning to see her, as the staff kind of kicks us out from 6-8 am, mainly for their cleaning and testing. For some reason, I feel like we might have a pretty good day today. Just the way her alertness has been, makes me think, maybe, she is starting to be alert for longer times. We'll see what the day holds. I hope my feelings are right this morning. Very slowly each day, we seem to get a little more of our Mary back. Your comments are wonderful. I can't wait for the day she can read them and see how many people love her and care about her. Please keep praying for Mary. Thanks.

November 12, 2008 pm

It's 7:25 pm. I just got back from going out to supper tonight with some of Mary's best friends. We went down the street to Apple bee's, is was very nice to get out. Mary had one of those days that was just a descent day. She was alert quite a bit of the day, and was saying a few different things. She continues to follow the doctors commands on the right side. She still says her name, wiggles her toes and holds up the right amount of fingers. She has been having to do some breathing treatments that she really doesn't like to do. It is very uncomfortable to her, but is something that just has to be done. She is being weaned off of the medicine that is controlling the brain swelling, and that's a good thing. She has been in pain some of the day, mainly her head hurts. I would think it would have to. One thing that she said today astounded me. She was alone with my Mom, and said "I can't believe I had a brain aneurysm". My Mom said she understood her when she said it. Although none of us can believe she had one, I thought is was unbelievable that she said it. All the friends and family members that come up and see Mary, cannot believe the progress she has made in a little over a week. She is trying so hard. You can here it in her voice, you can see it in the expressions on her face. When she is in pain, I want to fix it, but I can't. When she is given her pain medicine, it does subside, and she rests for a while. When she wakes back up, we start talking to her again. She does understand us, and we are starting to understand more of what she is trying to tell us. It will all come in time. We have to be patient, and most importantly, I hope Mary can be patient. For those of you who know Mary well, you know as well as I do that she will want it to happen now. She will need all of our help to get through this. She has such great friends, who I know will be there. That in itself is makes this road seem not quite as long. Please keep praying. Thanks.

November 11, 2008 am

It is 7:o8 am. Mary had a night that was filled with descent rest and also some discomfort. My parents and Mary's parents were so wonderful last night. They all took turns staying by Mary's side throught the whole night. I was with her until around 11:00pm, but then they all took over. I actually got pretty much a full nights sleep. It is a huge help that they are here. I haven't got to see Mary yet this morning, as I slept up until the 6:00 non-visiting hours. I am not sure what the day will bring today, and really not sure what tests are sheduled. I am sure the Dr. Chicoinne (her surgeon) will be around today to check on Mary. I'll know more then. I will be able to write more on any kind of progress later today. So until then, pray for a good day. Thank you all for your wonderful comments to Mary. I know that when she gets well enough to read this, she will love to know just how many people are going through this with her. Thanks.

November 10th, 2008 pm

Mary's day started a little slow. No real changes from the night before, but no real steps backwards. She had a CT scan this morning and everything turned out OK. I was a little scared this morning, as I am everytime a test is done. But, it was all OK. We had some visitors today, and it was very nice to see them. Great friends. There were however a few big baby steps this afternoon. While Morey and my Mom were in the room talking to Mary, Morey asked "how's it hangin' Mary?" She replied with a thumbs up. Morey came and got me and I went in immediatley. That left Mom and myself alone with Mary. She was trying to tell me something verbally, so I bent down to listen closer, and watch her mouth. I thought I understood what she said, so I asked "did you say put me in my chair please?" She nodded yes. She understood me and I understood her. What a lift that was for me. I then told her that I would go out and try to find a nurse to make it happen. She moved her right hand kind of in a shooing motion, basically telling me to go already. I didn't mind getting bossed around. After they got her into the chair, I went in to talk to to her. I crawled up on the bed beside her chair and began talking to her. I was just me and Mary. She was for the first time, completely focused on everything I was saying. I told her why she was there, and how we were going to do this thing together. At one point she started rubbing my arm and pulled me in tight for a hug. It was one of the best hugs ever. I knew she was in there. This was another step down our road. (but man, what a one to remember). Please keep praying for us. Thanks.

November 11, 2008 am

It is 7:20 am. I really don't have a lot to report this morning. Mary was comfortable throughout the entire night. She became alert when the doctors and nurses awoke her and completed her tests (wiggle your toes etc...). She still was able to do that on the right side. Her brother Dave spent most of the night with her last night. He drove in mainly just to do that. Mary's Mom spent some of it with her also. I got a pretty descent night of sleep. If I get any more information during the daytime, I will write another message during the daytime to keep you informed of any updates. I hope that she will wake up a little bit more today and be a little more responsive. We will see what the day holds. Keep Praying please. Thanks.

November 10th, 2008 pm

It is 6:42 pm on Monday night. I actually just got back from going to Applebees just down the street. My sister Beth made me get out of the hospital for just a little while. We grabbed a bite to eat, and then came straight back. I was actually a little nice to get some fresh air. I didn't know it was so chilly out. If a good day is one that didn't go the wrong direction, then that is what Mary had. She was pretty much out all day because of the medication for her pain. She rested comfortable for the most part of the day. Her vitals are still good, and will still do commands with her right side when the doctors ask. I met with the surgeon today a little, and he said these are still good signs. It is just going to take a long time. Mary has to be feeling scared, and confused on why she is like she is. She can't talk very well, her body just doesn't work right yet. We are constantly staying by her side now so she has a family member with her to reassure her that it's OK. If I could trade places with her I would. The doctor also said that it may be conceivable that she could be out of ICU by the end of the week. We will see. Again, we are taking this one day at a time. With all of her rest today, I hope and pray that she will have a better day tomorrow. It is rare these days to actually find the person that you will spend the rest of your life with. I found mine about 25 years ago. Mary is my soul mate. I will be here until I take her home with me. Only God knows when that will be. Until then I will keep doing everything that I can do to make it happen. I couldn't do this without my family, I need them and love them. Sometimes a person just doesn't say those words enough. I know I didn't, but I do now. Thanks.

November 10, 2008 am

It is 8:49 am this on Monday morning. I am late on getting this out today because I was setting with Mary until now. She is pretty much unchanged throughout the night. She has been having some trouble with keeping her oxygen level up to the numbers they want. The nurses have been able to get it back up with puting an oxygen mask on for a little while. She will still say her name when asked, and all the other commands that the doctors ask her to do. She is very sleepy most of the time. I guess that rest and sleep are good for you. They are going to do an ultra sound on her legs today to make sure she has proper blood flow. When you are in bed for a week, your legs might not get the flow that they want. I can't believe we have been here for a week already. This is so hard for all of us to go through. I can't even imagine what my Mary is going through. She tries so hard to let us know what she is feeling. It breaks my heart that she is going through this. I don't know why this happened. I keep asking myself why. Why her. The doctors don't know how much for sure she will be affected by this. Only time will tell. Our kids had to go back to college today. Please pray for them to stay strong, as I know it is going to be hard for them think about anything else but their Mom. We just all love her so much, and want to come out of this and live a normal life. I know things are going to be different. I know Mary will be different in some way. The only thing that I know that will not change is our undying love for her. Please keep praying for her. Please keep thinking of her. She needs all your energy. Thanks.

Novemeber 9th, 2008 pm

It is 6:47 pm. The day started out pretty good for Mary today as was told in my last entry. So far, the day has continued to be a day that will be remembered. This afternoon they had Mary in a recliner, which they have done before. She is more in an upright position, but reclined back. It just gives her a little different position. While my Mom and Regan were in setting with Mary, she became a little anxious and began really moving around. She was actually trying to get out of the chair. They called me in so we could try to calm her down a little bit. We did, but this time she remained more alert that she has yet. My Mom began talking to her and Mary was understanding what she was saying. She was working so hard to communicate to us. She was asked who I was while I was looking at her. She replied "My Husband". Obviously, my heart filled with joy. Mom asked her if she knew who Regan was, while she looked her in the eye. Mary replied "My baby girl". She also new Alex as "my son". These little steps, in my eyes were big ones. They helped us all realize that Mary is in there. She knew us. Then Mary asked for her Mommy. Within seconds Darlene was by her side and just like in real life, she calmed down. Mary and her Mom have always had a very special relationship filled with love and trust. She feels very safe with her. Mary's mom suggested that we always have a familiar face that she will see when she wakes up. Whatever time it may be. Mary and I are both fortunate to have wonderful, loving families. We are all in this together. As I am writing this, Morse and Darlene are in the room with their baby girl. Just there for her. Please keep praying. Thanks.

November 9th, 2008 am

It is 6:14 am. I just got back from visiting my sweet Mary. She had a pretty good night of sleep, the nurse said. He said that was his goal for the night, good rest. Before I had walked into the room, my Sister in Law Julie, told me that Mary said to her "Julie, help me" at a point during the night. Even though it breaks my heart to hear her have to say those words, she said them. She new who Julie was. That in itself gave me a boost before I walked in the room. While I was in there, just sitting, she opened her left eye and began moving around, restlessly. I started talking to her and I really feel that she focused on my face. I really felt I was talking to my honey again. She calmed back down. When the nurse came back in, she opened her eye again and he said "Good morning Mary!" to her, and she responded a quiet and slow, "Good morning". I had to leave the room at 6:00am for the staff to do their stuff. As I am writing this I feel like Mary has had a pretty good Morning already. I only hope it continues throughout the day. Mary's nurses are wonderful and I know she is getting the best care possible. Knowing that, helps all of us that are going through this with her. A good friend of mine told me something that is sticking in my head everyday. He said "Scott, This is going to be a long road, but at least we have that road." I am telling myself that every day. Every day that goes by is one more step down that long road. None of us can really see the finish line yet, but I know there is going to be plenty of help along the way for us to find it. Keep Praying. Thanks.

November 8th, 2008 pm

Mary had a good day today. There were really so set backs of any kind. Her vital signs remain strong. I met with the doctor this morning and he gave me some positives. He said all these little things that she is doing, are all good signs. He still is encouraged that she has a chance to make a pretty good recovery. He also said that she may actually be a little ahead of where he thought she would be at this point. All this is good, and I know that. But, Mary is still in ICU in critical condition. For some reason I just can't let myself celebrate with good news. I am so scared of setting myself for a fall if I do..I guess. I just want her to wake up. Selfish or not, that's what I want. At about 5:50pm tonight my Mom and Regan were making one last visit before some of us went down to the cafeteria to have some dinner. While they were talking to Mary, she opened her left eye all they way the right eye partially. My Mother was bending down talking to Mary to reassure that we all love her and she is doing well. My Mom said a tear then came out of Mary's eye and rolled down her face, why her eye was focused on my Mom. Then she wiped the tear with her right hand. Slowly, she went back to sleep. She is in there, she is fighting, and I can tell she wants to be her with us. I guess we are still in tune with each other, as I had to wipe my own tears writing this. I hope she has a good morning tomorrow. Keep praying. Thanks.

November 8, 2008 am

The nurse came and got me at about 6:05 this morning, and told me that Mary had opened both eyes this morning during her test. She took me in to try to make her do it again for me, and she did. Her right eye was not opened fully, but it was the first movement of any kind in that eye. It was nice to see. She still is not "awake" yet. These signs are good ones that maybe she is close. We don't know, the doctors don't know. It will take time. It is so hard to be patient, but I know we have to be. Mary is so vibrant and outgoing and such a wonderful person. That has somehow got to be on her side. She is still saying her name when asked by the doctors, so she knows who she is. I just hope that she knows how many people love her and are here for her. Please keep praying for her. I know some of you have never prayed so much in your lives. Including myself. Your helping me also. Thank you.

Mary had her angiogram this afternoon about 3:45. They checked to make sure that there were no vascular spasms in the brain. This is when the blood vessels contract which causes lack of blood flow, thus creating more strokes. They found no sign of any spasms. They also checked the area that was worked on during surgery to make sure there was no blood getting to the anurysm that was clamped off. They said it looked good so far. She is still not out of the woods yet. She still is very sleepy and has not awaken fully yet. She is fighting hard to come out of it. Please, everyone keep her in your thoughts and prayers. Mary is a very special person that we all love. She is a great friend, mother, and wife. She's my best friend and I need her here with me and our kids. Everything is going slowly in the right direction. I hope shes has a good night, and has a good day tomorrow. I will update again in the morning. Thanks for everything.

November 7, 2008

Today started out pretty good. Mary was able to say her first and last names. It was very slow and garbled, but it was said. That was good. She has been moving around a little more today. I was able to see her open her eye about 1/2 way this morning. I am not sure if she saw or focused or not.  Another good step though. She is making small strides each day. This is a slow, slow process that so hard for all of us to see and go through. We are trying our best to remain strong for her. We know that you all are here with us in spirit. Your thoughts and prayers are working. Please, please keep them coming. Mary is going in for an angiogram this afternoon. They will be looking to see the blood vessels in the brain to make sure that she is getting proper blood flow. They will check the aneurysm that was clamped off, to make sure that blood is no longer flowing into it. Please pray for her and the doctors, and hope that they see what they want to. Thanks